A Good Man is NOT Hard to Find

19 May

The above statement may be negated by ladies with a chorus rising to a crescendo, trying to fully justify why it is folly to believe so. True, the disease ‘Men behaving badly’ may have gone viral, but we all know not every man has contracted it.

We could be dealing with a monster of perception if women believe that the peculiar behavior, from which the statement ‘Men are dogs’ is derived from, is cast in stone. After all, it could be a case of appearance vs. reality.

A good man is not hard to find, however hard this may seem. Forget the infidelity and immorality stories you hear on the radio waves. Forget what that kitchen cabinet tells you. Controversy and negative statements will always sell.

“But where are they?” you may ask. When you are at home, you are told they are out there. When you go to entertainment joints, you are told they are out there. When you go to church, you’ll still be told they are out there.

You see, ‘Out There’ could be next to you. Yes, a good man could be seated or standing besides you, yet because of your expectations and priorities, not only may you not see him, you may never see any good in him as well.

Understand this; men are not from the same mother. Human beings are unique, something that differentiates even twins. Some of you have good men in your lives, but you do not enjoy since you have made the fruits of that relationship rot with suspicion. You are busy subjecting your man to other people’s bad experiences.

However, before you go out looking for a good man, define what this ‘good’ is in your own terms, not someone else’s. What is it that you are looking for? Remember though, goodness is not found in what one has, but in one’s character.

No one wants to end up a pauper, rightfully so, but if you put finances over character, and you end up getting hurt, who would you blame? What is the point of having a man who pampers you with all sorts of gifts while serving you a combo of knuckles and slaps or playing you like a game of pool?

This world is abundant with good men, men who would wholeheartedly bring happiness and joy to you, restoring that beautiful smile on your face. But if you still think that the statement is not true, you may need to ask yourself, “Am I good enough?”


Posted by on May 19, 2011 in Relationships


8 responses to “A Good Man is NOT Hard to Find

  1. just married

    May 19, 2011 at 12:42 pm

    Perceptions perceptions!!!!! Ugghh we live in a cosmetic world that believes in opinion polls as the Gospel truth .. also we turn to the likes of TV series like cheaters and believe that such stage managed antics r reality!!! Truth be told…not all men are dogs. And not all ladies ate gold diggers!!! Gangi endelea NA kazi!!

  2. jerri

    May 19, 2011 at 1:12 pm

    i love it! you have hit the nail on the head again.truth be told

  3. Naomi

    May 19, 2011 at 1:37 pm

    love it!so simply put so true,we focus and trust media so much and forget to live real lives

  4. shiku M

    May 19, 2011 at 2:54 pm

    i totally agree..there are some good men out here..and i am married to one of those! so yeah i agree Gangi, some good guy could just be sitting next to a lady who’s out looking for something that she will never find!!!

  5. Maggie

    May 19, 2011 at 3:58 pm

    Before stating your lists of what u want in a man/woman you ought to ask yourself ….do you posses similar qualitites? if not work on your self and sooner than later someone will be drawn to what it is in you that complete
    and complements then….i believe there are good men and good women you need to create your own experience.

  6. just married

    May 19, 2011 at 6:27 pm

    The song goes…you don’t know what you got till its gone…..a case of looking for love in all the wrong places…kissing one too many frogs…been there done that…got the t-shirts!!! But I got the one!

  7. muthoni

    May 19, 2011 at 7:42 pm

    very well said,yeah impatience with God does get one in trouble hmm

  8. Nancy

    May 19, 2011 at 11:14 pm

    True! A Good Man is NOT Hard to Find. Another Truth; A Good Woman is NOT hard to find.


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