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Wedding Finance

12 May

With bloated budgets, big committees, numerous meetings and memos, you could actually confuse a wedding plan to a departmental strategic plan. Not only have we strived to make it an occasion to remember, rightfully so, but in equal manner have we made lavish to be its first cousin.

Week in week out, we are in frantic moods to organize these special days. But a question begs to ask, special to whom?

One of the biggest obstacles in a wedding is cash. We want to spend as if there is no tomorrow. We find it hard, nay, impossible to downsize the budget when we realize we can’t afford it. If you have the cash, by all means, do as you please. However, if you don’t have the cash, why kill yourself trying?

Without trying to trivialize the importance of a wedding (ladies, I feel you), it’s important to remember where you are, your capacity and future in mind. We find ourselves in that precarious position where we bite more than we can chew.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s good, actually important, to ask for help, to stand with each other. But if the deficit in your budget is as big as east is from west, then don’t be surprised when your so called close friends desert you.

Picture this.

Why pay for fuel for a guzzler just for photo’s sake, only for you to take a battered matatu to work the week after your honeymoon? Why have a wedding that is so made in heaven, only for marriage to bring you back to earth with a thud, and in some cases take you straight to hell?

Why show the world how good your wedding is when the question on the many lips is how long will your marriage last?

We are in a race to satisfy our earthly desires. We behave as if possessed. But unknown to you, others are cashing in on our miseries.

Wedding Planners and Service Providers

I always see an opportunity in becoming one of the above. Heck, I want to take advantage of all the hullabaloo and earn myself an early retirement package. I will pour in incredible ideas to the committee, advise them on the latest cards, tents and gazebos, décor, etc. Advise them against church weddings.

You see, I don’t need to enjoy your wedding. Heck, may not want to. But I will ensure I reap my value from you…in cash.

Don’t get me wrong, wedding planners or service providers are good. Thank God for them, for the job creations in this world of unemployment. But this service provided should never make you a casualty. You are in control. You should be in control.

Don’t rush to make your wedding to be similar to or better than some wedding you saw or got invited to. Remember people always attend so many weddings they actually forget the previous ones they have attended!

This mad rush makes you bridge your deficit with a loan. For a wedding planner or service provider, such loans are used to fund and expand the business. But for you, you may just be entering marriage with one foot in debt.

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11 Comments

Posted by on May 12, 2011 in Personal Finance

 

11 responses to “Wedding Finance

  1. Anonymous

    May 17, 2011 at 11:03 am

    Spot on. Meanwhile it costs less than Kes 5,000 to have a wedding at the AG. Lets be reasonable and do the right thing

     
  2. Cyra

    May 22, 2011 at 12:52 am

    Nice one Munene…. Hit the nail on the head yet again!!!

     
  3. Lawrence Mwangi

    May 25, 2011 at 7:08 pm

    dude ur on point! wrong choises

     
  4. Georgyn

    May 25, 2011 at 8:43 pm

    Hey ladies someone’s hating!

     
  5. Sly

    May 28, 2011 at 10:40 am

    Haha! Eti someone’s hating…funny guy. You’re spot on Munene. Weddings have become a business rather than an occasion to celebrate. If I haven’t bought a house, a car and saved up for my children’s education, why should I go out and pour hundreds of thousands of shillings for ONE day to impress people who hardly know me? That’s just my take. Carry on!

     
  6. Judy Malu

    June 14, 2011 at 11:57 pm

    Waa! This is so true Munene. I wish we could learn not to compare ourselves with others when we obviously know our pockets & guess what … there’s a lot more waiting for us ahead after the wedding. I won’t agree more with Florence Littteur in her book “After the wedding comes the marriage”

     
  7. jerri

    June 25, 2011 at 2:47 pm

    you are right, weddings have become such an expensive affair at the cost of the real deal marriage.keep them coming.

     
  8. Nyagaki

    April 9, 2012 at 12:48 am

    Point on…..meanwhile they exploit their friends and family (committee),i went to one committee i was told the minimum contribution was Ksh 10,000.00………..People should learn to live within their means.A perfect wedding does’nt necessarily translate to a perfect marriage.

     
    • Munene Gangi

      April 9, 2012 at 6:56 pm

      Spot on, Nyagaki. A perfect wedding doesn’t necessarily translate to a perfect marriage. Couldn’t have put it better.

       

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